Lessons Learned Life has this post with the 37 things that we will regret when we are old. I have listed the items and have answered my own experience against each.
1. Not traveling when you had the chance.
I have travelled enough for more than one lifetime.
2. Not learning another language.
As an Indian Sales and Marketing Professional, I had no choice. I can read, write and speak fluently four languages, and speak three others.
3. Staying in a bad relationship.
I didn’t have to.
4. Forgoing sunscreen.
I am an Indian. What is sunscreen?
5. Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians.
I have been blessed and have seen live performances of most of my favourite musicians.
6. Being scared to do things.
I was not.
7. Failing to make physical fitness a priority.
My journey has been a hit and miss experience due to my peculiar physical problems. I still try to keep fit with a regime of exercises.
8. Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.
Does not apply to me. I never let my being a male stop me from being a house husband.
9. Not quitting a terrible job.
10. Not trying harder in school.
Mea culpa. I did not know any better and did not have a mentor to guide me. I caught up with education subsequently through distance learning and by going to Business School.
11. Not realizing how beautiful you were.
Not something that ever bothered me.
12. Being afraid to say “I love you.”
I never was, nor am I now.
13. Not listening to your parents’ advice.
I did to my mother’s and benefited. My father did not get an opportunity to advice me!
14. Spending your youth self-absorbed.
I had no time to be self absorbed. I was too busy keeping my body and soul together.
15. Caring too much about what other people think.
Not something that bothered me ever.
16. Supporting others’ dreams over your own.
Did not have to.
17. Not moving on fast enough.
Not applicable to me.
18. Holding grudges, especially with those you love.
I had no choice. I did till the very end. I don’t any more.
19. Not standing up for yourself.
Not applicable to me.
20. Not volunteering enough.
I have done my share of volunteering.
21. Neglecting your teeth.
Despite not neglecting, I have had my share of visits to the dentist.
22. Missing the chance to ask your grandparents questions before they die.
My maternal grandparents had died before I was born, and I never got to spend enough time with my paternal ones at the right time. Not something that I regret though.
23. Working too much.
I did but enjoyed every moment of it.
24. Not learning how to cook one awesome meal.
I learnt to more than just one awesome meal.
25. Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment.
I had enough opportunities to stop and smell the roses while on the way to growing old.
26. Failing to finish what you start.
I can’t think of anything that I started that I did not finish.
27. Never mastering one awesome party trick.
Something that I had not thought about. I did not attend many parties where people had to perform party tricks. I don’t know any party tricks.
28. Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.
I rebelled. I had a reputation in the family for being a nogoodnik.
29. Refusing to let friendships run their course.
I have let enough friendships to run their courses without any regret.
30. Not playing with your kids enough.
Mea culpa. I was too busy travelling for business.
31. Never taking a big risk (especially in love).
Both my late wife and I knew that we were taking the biggest risk of our lives when we decided to get married to each other. It worked out alright in the end. I had taken other risks in my career which paid off.
32. Not taking the time to develop contacts and network.
One of my great achievements is my list of contacts and the networks that I belong to.
33. Worrying too much.
I am not prone to worrying.
34. Getting caught up in needless drama.
Who needs it?
35. Not spending enough time with loved ones.
I did, when it mattered. Neither they nor I had / have any regrets. I continue to spend time with my loved ones now too.
36. Never performing in front of others.
I have performed in front of audiences enough to last me a lifetime. Even now, much to my embarrassment, I am reminded of those events at some of our get-togethers.
37. Not being grateful sooner.
I have always been grateful for all that I have been blessed with.
The last paragraph below is from the post.
“It can be hard to see in the beginning, but eventually it becomes clear that every moment on this earth — from the mundane to the amazing — is a gift that we’re all so incredibly lucky to share.”