http://rummuser.com/?p=348 Wisdom by Hindsight Wed, 08 Sep 2010 08:10:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 http://rummuser.com/?p=348#comment-444 Ramana Rajgopaul Mon, 15 Sep 2008 15:20:14 +0000 http://rummuser.com/?p=94#comment-444 I would not have bothered to react at all. If we keep worrying about what anyone else is thinking about us, we will never live our lives with all its ups and downs. I would have certainly considered adoption without again worrying about what others will have to think or say about it. I would not have bothered to react at all. If we keep worrying about what anyone else is thinking about us, we will never live our lives with all its ups and downs. I would have certainly considered adoption without again worrying about what others will have to think or say about it.

]]> http://rummuser.com/?p=348&cpage=1#comment-443 jyoti Mon, 15 Sep 2008 13:09:03 +0000 http://rummuser.com/?p=94#comment-443 I don't know how I would have reacted had I been childless but adoption certainly is an option. I don’t know how I would have reacted had I been childless but adoption certainly is an option.

]]> http://rummuser.com/?p=348&cpage=1#comment-442 Barath Rajgopaul Tue, 05 Aug 2008 17:04:29 +0000 http://rummuser.com/?p=94#comment-442 Ramana, Again, this is very interesting post in that it raises issues related to access to children and grand children. Indeed, if you compare people whose lives are closely knit as in the case of our loved cousin, with say someone of my ilk who spent his life away from his family, the comparison flounders as at least our cousin had most of his life in the company of his brother and his children not to mention his sisters. Hence his ready access (albeit fraught at times as most families who live at close quarters encounter from time to time) to nieces and nephews probably made up to a large extent of not having children of his own. Please do not misread this, no one would voluntarily wish such a fate, but in the event that this was to be ones lot, at least he was blessed with a loving family around him. I do not know what comments have been made about his lack of children etc, but my view of the cousin involved is that he is singularly a great companion and a relative who will always be held in ther greatest affection in my mind and hence on balance his life would probably have been a more enjoyable one than such as mine who has only had sporadic acces to nieces, nephews, brothers and sister and cousin. However, that is not a complaint, a mere statement of how it has been for my 42 years of living in the UK. Ramana,
Again, this is very interesting post in that it raises issues related to access to children and grand children. Indeed, if you compare people whose lives are closely knit as in the case of our loved cousin, with say someone of my ilk who spent his life away from his family, the comparison flounders as at least our cousin had most of his life in the company of his brother and his children not to mention his sisters. Hence his ready access (albeit fraught at times as most families who live at close quarters encounter from time to time) to nieces and nephews probably made up to a large extent of not having children of his own. Please do not misread this, no one would voluntarily wish such a fate, but in the event that this was to be ones lot, at least he was blessed with a loving family around him. I do not know what comments have been made about his lack of children etc, but my view of the cousin involved is that he is singularly a great companion and a relative who will always be held in ther greatest affection in my mind and hence on balance his life would probably have been a more enjoyable one than such as mine who has only had sporadic acces to nieces, nephews, brothers and sister and cousin. However, that is not a complaint, a mere statement of how it has been for my 42 years of living in the UK.

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