Older Men, Take Heart. Older Women, Take The Advise.
By Rummuser. Filed in Humor, People, Relationships |Tags: Older men, older women, younger men, younger women
What has happened to the Grand Old Man as Ashok so endearingly calls him? Did something happen to him on his long week end off?
No, dear readers nothing happened. He is still quite all there, at least he thinks he is.
Let me whet your appetite with the quotation from a very interesting article that I read today.
“My experience of younger men has found them to be incurably addicted to unrealistic romance. It’s quaint, but it isn’t sexy. If I wanted the doe-eyed affections of a younger man I would get myself a puppy. No thanks, I’d much prefer a seasoned panther.”
This is an older woman talking about younger men and why she finds it strange that older women seem to be chasing younger men! I was of course immediately reminded of Grannymar and her toyboys. I never was able to convince her the same way as this lady in this article from the Independent does.
All my male readers, minus just three, Ashok, Sandeep and Sundar, are older men and all my female readers are also older women. So, I want to share this article with all of you and seek your responses to this observation. I also hope that some reader will find something similar about younger women and older men!
Incidentally, the cougar referred to in the article apparently refers to a popular Television Reality Show of older women dating younger men.
Monday, October 19th 2009 at 20:12 |
Don’t ruin my reputation and tell the toyboys… BUT…. I like a man who knows where he is going and has the busfare!
Rummuser Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 20:39
I thought that my giving you an honorable mention would enhance your reputation!
Monday, October 19th 2009 at 20:28 |
Do you mind, Ramana? I couldn’t care less about age but not ALL your female readers are older women! However, in the spirit of Mrs Robinson I shall read the article, reflect on the subject and report back on my findings – in my usual irritating way. In fact, hackles are rising already.
U
Rummuser Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 20:38
I do not mind at all. I could not care less either. I apologize for that omission. Had I known how old you are, I would have made an exception, but your mentioning Mrs Robinson gives the game away! All youngsters of my age, in 1967, that would have been 24, desperately hoped that a Mrs Robinson would land up in their lives. Alas, one didn’t in my life and I do not know of anyone else who was successful in that endeavour either.
Ursula Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 21:46
Ramana, dear spring chicken, I only give games away in absent minded moments. In 1967 I most certainly was not 24 – not even half way, and thus watched the film many years after its release – when it was already almost quaint. Of course, I would have liked to help you out – talk about time travel.
By the way, did you know that the age difference between Ann Bancroft and Dustin Hoffman was only five years? Graduate, my foot.
Other than that, I have been trying to fulfill my promise of commenting more on your original piece. Am in a bind now: Firstly, I refuse to give any time to that hard nosed bitch, Helen Croydon; she really has her cold knickers in a mercenary twist. Secondly, whilst the question you raise worthy of examination – and, as you know, I tend to examine everything at length – I don’t want to take over your blog with expansive musings.
U
Rummuser Reply:
October 21st, 2009 at 08:48
Nice that someone calls me a spring chicken. Perhaps I should now have a re-look at myself and see if I can get myself an arm candy!
On the contrary, do feel free to take over my blog with your expansive musings. Longer the better. Lights up the place as Frank Sinatra used to say. Helen Croyden certainly seems to have got your hackles up. What did the poor thing do?
Monday, October 19th 2009 at 20:41 |
Hey rummuser,
Have you ever noticed that I find more elder women blogging than their younger counterparts? I feel it as a welcome sign and also proud that they have catched up web to emote their feelings, thoughts and passion. I was wonder-struck when I randomly checked out several blogs and all of them are owned by several stay at home moms. Have you ever noticed this? or is it just a vague observation of mine? I am not considering the men bloggers here.
Rummuser Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 21:17
Girish, you are very observant. At least in my little corner of the blog world, except some notable exceptions, both men and women who blog are senior citizens. I suppose that it is because we have the time and enjoy the banter.
Monday, October 19th 2009 at 20:44 |
Hopefully, this is something I’ll not have to be concerned about since I’m in a long-term relationship with a younger woman — younger by eight months.
Seriously, if a relationship with a younger person develops on its own, I don’t have a problem with it. However, to actively hunt for a relationship with someone significantly younger is not quite right, in my view.
“Cougar Camp” = younger male “hunting camp.”
Rummuser Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 20:35
I provoke! I have no opinion one way or the other.
Monday, October 19th 2009 at 21:41 |
Ramana, coincidentally there is a tv show airing for the past few months named “cougar town” starring “friends” fame courtney cox. I was wondering whether that could happen so eloquently in real life and was astonished honestly when I opened my feed reader and landed up to your post.
Rummuser Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 20:34
Welcome any way, and thanks for the comment.
Monday, October 19th 2009 at 21:52 |
I’ve read that article as well. I don’t understand why older women would want to run after younger men, who are likely to be short of both cash and experience. The same applies the other way round to older men chasing younger women. Mind you, Jenny is ten years younger than me but when we met eons ago we just saw each other as young. I see attractive younger women all the time but apart from my being spoken-for, I’m sure they wouldn’t be mature enough to hold my interest for long.
Rummuser Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 20:34
Nick, you are, shall we say, different?
Ursula Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 21:56
Nick, as long as a woman can RUN after a man she should pace herself and just do what Jack Lemmon and Tony Curtis did so well on the platform of “Some Like It Hot”: Stagger along in your stilettos – with some dignity. Oh, I so love that film. And Marily Monroe has nothing on those two.
Let’s not be precious as to the appeal of young skin. We can all appreciate a peach, doesn’t mean we have to bite into it.
U
Rummuser Reply:
October 21st, 2009 at 08:49
Well said about the peach. That usually is the case with older men. They can only appreciate, cannot bite! You know, like dogs chasing cars, if they catch it, they would not know what to do with it!
Monday, October 19th 2009 at 22:09 |
Ramana, as you have observed, Cougars are critters that have been stimulating my interest in ways that are difficult for others to fully appreciate. When I come across an ornery cat, the usual temptation is to put some gloves on, protect the arms, and give them some unwelcome but playful attention. I view this as perfectly fair, because it is quite gentle compared to how they handle their prey.
Quoting from the article, we see this:
“It came without any health warning on some of the possible effects a bold and experienced woman may have on the less emotionally developed mind of a younger man.”
But seriously, since when did we need to start asking if the mouse was sufficiently emotionally developed to receive the attention of the cat?
Rummuser Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 20:33
I do not need to ask those questions Looney. I provoke. I do not pontificate!
Ursula Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 21:58
Well, Looney, one looney finds another: What the hell are you talking about?
And yes, Ramana, you are quite right: You don’t pontificate. How long have I been trying to take a leaf out of your book?
U
Looney Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 22:36
Ursula, I gave an abstract impressionist response which merged together multiple streams of consciousness. Since I spend a lot of time out among the cougars (i.e. mountain lions) alone, defenseless and far from help, the word “cougar” immediately brings up a lot of emotions and memories.
Rummuser Reply:
October 21st, 2009 at 08:52
Looney, you lost me there my good man! I hope that Urusula doesn’t meet the same fate too! Unless of course you are deliberately doing it. Would not put it beyond your capabilities.
Rummuser Reply:
October 21st, 2009 at 08:51
I would not know. It is however very simple. Just start your own blog or if you already have one, just let us all know so that we can come there and let steam off too.
Monday, October 19th 2009 at 22:38 |
Rummy, I have older woman chasing me and I’m 60. How do I know this ,well, they call me a “hunk” and all sorts of names! I just have to beat them down! It’s really a rough life! By the Rummy, I have no idea where I’m going, busfare?–forget it!!!!!!
Rummuser Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 20:32
Yes Maynard, you have featured in one of my posts trying to out cycle those lovely lasses trying to catch you. You do not need bus fare. You have got your bicycles.
Ursula Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 21:59
Yes, the mysterious Maynard. When can we have hard evidence as to your charms – and your ability to ride a bike?
U
Rummuser Reply:
October 21st, 2009 at 08:51
Mayo, the floor I think is yours.
Monday, October 19th 2009 at 23:05 |
I couldn’t keep up with a younger man and it would really demoralize me to try. I don’t have a problem with older women dating younger men if they’re compatible, but it’s not for me.
Rummuser Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 20:31
Fair enough. Any way, it is the older guys who have got the bus fare!
Tuesday, October 20th 2009 at 01:22 |
Well for reality , some woman just likes younger men. I don’t really know what is the reason but for men, mostly they like women younger than them.
Rummuser Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 20:30
What a philosopher you are!
Tuesday, October 20th 2009 at 17:30 |
Dear GOM,
How about I mention both sides of the equation.
I, as you are well aware, was a ‘younger wife’ our age gap was 27 years. In many ways Jack was way younger than I was, having survived many traumas and tragedies along the road, his outlook on life was amazingly positive. His glass was always full and Elly was the icing on his cake. Even when he died people didn’t believe how old he was. I am indeed a better person for having known and been loved by him!
Today while playing catch-up on my blog reading, I came across this link from Time Goes By http://www.timegoesby.net/weblog/2009/10/vintage-tgb-19-october-2004.html#comments
It shows that the topic of older women with younger men is not new. Enjoy.
Rummuser Reply:
October 20th, 2009 at 20:30
I thoroughly enjoyed that link. Thank you.
Wednesday, October 21st 2009 at 05:00 |
The whole toyboy phenomenon has been going on for a while. It began, if I remember rightly, with Britt Ekland, the former wife (and child bride) of the late Peter Sellers. After she was dumped by her long term lover, rock star Rod Stewart, with whom she had a very public relationship, for a younger, blonder woman, she hit back by dating and marrying younger, handsomer men. Then there was singer Cher (of ‘Sonny and Cher’ fame) who was in a similar position, being out of a relationship. These ‘girls’ got a great ego boost from getting attention from young, handsome men. They already had money, professional credibility (well, in the entertainment business, Britt was an actress and model, and Cher is a hell of a great singer and a terrific actress) but a girl needs more than that, I suppose. That was around twenty years ago, if I remember rightly.
A friend of mine once told me that men ‘peak’ at age nineteen and women do at 40 so the 19 year old man and 40 year old woman was a perfect combination. Well, it’s ok I suppose provided you’re not looking for something long term. Or else you’d have a 40 year old man and a 59 year old woman. Eventually. I think the relationship would have run out of steam by then.
I don’t think Grannymar is mad after toyboys. She’s young at heart and has an Irish sense of humour. She knows she’s lovely, and has plenty to offer. But she’s not one of these insecure people who needs ‘arm candy’ to prove herself! That’s just a little joke of hers.
My husband is eight years older than me. I think age doesn’t matter at all really.One way or the other.
Rummuser Reply:
October 21st, 2009 at 08:42
Wow! You are a chupaa Rustom alright! Don’t make the mistake I made of under estimating Grannymar. Just ask her!
Tuesday, October 27th 2009 at 00:08 |
I found this website interesting since my mother is now single. I will forward it on and hopefully you will continue this subject.
Thx!