Aging.

I can’t remember what prompted me to suggest this topic for the weekly LBC post but having done it, I shall gamely try and write something meaningful about it.

Oddly enough, the last week’s post on The Old Days somehow leads naturally to this topic as after all it is the aged who want to talk or write about them.

Bar a few, my regular readers are all senior citizens and there is little that I can say that will be new to them as, like me, they too would be quite up to date on the subject due to personal experience.

The one thing that I notice often in my own experience of aging is the tendency to gloss over unpleasant things that have happened in the past and to re-live and exaggerate the good things that have happened. I wonder if this is normal but have always hesitated to ask anyone.

Then there is the question of what is in store for the future and whenever that thought occurs to me I go back to similar situations in the past and say, that like those things got sorted out, any new development in the future too will sort itself out.

Having seen some very unpleasant things happening to some people after their death, I prepared my will and got it properly attested by a Physician and witnessed by two independent witnesses. The people who need to know about it, know where it is so that after my departure there are no problems like those that I have seen others go through.

Other than these observations, I really cannot think of anything more to write on the subject. Can you? If you can, please do leave your comments which I will value.

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35 Responses to Aging.

  1. Did we listen? I doubt that the young do till they too age.

  2. Dunnasead says:

    actually, my view on aging is at Dunnasead.co, but I wanted to make a quick comment on yours, Ramana. To me, the reason we dwell on the glories of the past, all those great stories, is, in my opinion, because they are firstly more important to us, but secondly, more important to those around us, and to what we are leaving behind. Many many years from now, someone in your family is going to remember the night grandpa Ramana caught a fish just using his bare hands and then put it back, or rode his motor bike, or took a journey with Chutki. There is a Jewish saying that a person is still alive as long as one person remembers something about them.
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  3. Interestingly enough, I don’t think about the past much anymore. I mostly focus on the present, which wasn’t so true even just a few years ago. Maybe my memory is going? 😉
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  4. tammy j says:

    it’s the strangest thing.
    i truly often or most of the time don’t feel any older than i ever was.
    i don’t even put a number on it because it’s the same.
    i know that doesn’t make sense.
    when i had the wee blink bonnie… my cottage was several blocks from another addition.
    zeke and i walked all over the neighborhood. i had gotten into the habit of putting an elderly couple’s newspaper on their porch so it would be easier for them to get.
    one very icy winter day… zeke and i were walking toward their street and a car was coming. i somehow missed a patch of black ice and my feet went right out from under me. THWACK!!! i landed right on my back!
    the driver stopped and asked if i was okay. i said that i thought i was.”
    she said “whatever are you doing out here walking on ICE???”
    i replied that i was putting an ELDERLY couple’s newspaper up on their porch so they wouldn’t fall!
    LOLOL!!!
    she looked at me as if i was an idiot. her thoughts must have been…
    “have you looked in a mirror lately? YOU ARE ELDERLY!!!”
    i guess that’s what i think about being elderly. i never even think about it really.

  5. nick says:

    I certainly don’t gloss over the unpleasant things that have happened to me (as you know from occasional references to my dysfunctional childhood). I remember the disasters and disappointments as much as the pleasures and successes. I think most of the people I know tend to do the same. But I suppose people do tend to gloss over things like pain and grief if they think the other person won’t understand or won’t want to know.
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    • No, some deeply held memories are not what I wrote about but more the many of life’s vicissitudes that inevitably we face. And not sharing pain with others is also quite common for the reason that you mention.

  6. Looney says:

    Since I am not a senior by the standards of this blog, I am simply listening in and taking notes.
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  7. I hate getting old, it is mainly the fact that I am not as mobile as I used to be, that & the aches & pains. I wish I could let go entirely the bad things that have happened to me in the past, but I can’t. Maybe this serves to make sure that I guard against some of them happening again in the future.
    Regards, Keith.
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  8. Remembering pain — interesting topic. As you know, I had shingles in my left eye last year and I know intellectually that it was painful, and that I was setting my alarm every few hours to put drops in my eye, etc. but I don’t remember the pain. Mainly I have good feelings about that time because I managed to stay cheerful throughout it. I remember it with a feeling of accomplishment. That doesn’t mean I could do the same if I had cancer, of course, but it was encouraging.

  9. Joared says:

    Well, you pretty well covered it all — the past, present and future. I perceive time moving faster as I became what could be called aged. Some suggest this might not be totally a figment of my imagination.
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  10. Big John says:

    All I know is that Betty Davis was right when she said … “Old age ain’t no place for sissies.” … 😉
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  12. Grannymar says:

    Aging?

    In my book age is a number and inside my head I am thirty!
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  13. Linda Sand says:

    I seem to be welcoming aging. I’m not really happy about reduced mobility but I am sure ready to let other people take on my former responsibilities. I am slowly returning to a carefree childhood. Is that bad?

    • When people ask what I’m doing I say, “Enjoying my second childhood even more than my first one.” I figure being happy and engaged in life is the best gift we can give to our children. It’s not only setting a good example, it means we
      are freeing them from worrying about us.
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    • No, it is not bad.

  14. Cathy in NZ says:

    Well, I’m a bit behind reading your blog but let me tell you that on Friday 15th I was not a senior citizen but on Sunday 17th, I joined the Super-club which definitely senior citizen status in NZ. I haven’t actually got my “gold-card” but I will certainly write a post on it when it arrives…

    So now I’m entitled to become a “retired bum” without anyone telling me I “can’t” 🙂

  15. wisewebwoman says:

    I’ve always loved being the age I am. I don’t understand people who want to look younger or be mistaken in their age. Sad. When I was mistaken many times for my granddaughter’s mother I would correct people immediately and they would joke about me giving birth at 16 or something. I never found it funny or flattering. I love embracing the age I am when so many are denied the privilege, my mother included.

    XO
    WWW
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  16. I am late with my comment, but it’s a good thing, because I had a great time reading the array of comments for this blog, (Ramana, you really touched a nerve!). I had a big laugh when I read tammy j’s note—what an amusing and refreshing perspective you have, tammy j! Thank you, All, for giving me a great start to the day!
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  17. A few years ago I thought of starting a service that would send emails and postings posthumously on one’s behalf so others feel nothing has changed ( for a fee of course) a.. found already exists! I am feeling the age too !
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  18. Mother says:

    I pretty much agree with TammyJ. I forget that I am elderly (which I certainly am!) You have marked aging well. I do think that as long as I deal with it internally and just live my life, and forget how others see me, I am doing just fine. When I get my fine vanity wrapped up in it I can get rather gritchy. After all, do I REALLY look as if I need help up and down curbs? And then, on the other hand, I appreciate a bit of help now and then.

    Like the rest of life, it is complex, isn’t it?
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