Child Abuse.

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This morning when I collected the newspapers at the door this headline screamed at me – Schoolgirl ‘gagged, raped’ on her way home. Almost on a daily basis we see news of some kind of child abuse all across our country but, from the image above, it is obvious that this is a universal phenomenon. There are stories of exploitation of the innocent by gangs that end up in trafficking too. Very often it is someone close to the child, say a relative or family friend or even school teacher who abuses the child.  What is more galling is the often experienced cover up by families out of shame or fear and even government authorities for political reasons as in the case of the British scandal.

I am not a psychologist to be able to comment on the why this is happening but am a philosopher of sorts who wonders as to why as human beings we are unable to universally behave like other living beings do.

Only human beings can conceive of a reality beyond their body/mind/intellect complex. They find deeper meanings to life, become very creative in many fields, invent new useful things, explore the unknown etc, but behave in such a vile manner that I find it difficult to understand why they do these things.

All life forms instinctively go after food, shelter and progeny, but only human beings seem to be able to produce these aberrations that are so devoid of compassion that a trusting child is used to satisfy some primitive urge and or to criminally exploit,  and often to protect from discovery even in the killing of an innocent life.

Things have come to such a stage that young parents of children now prevent older people from being friendly with young children, constantly afraid as to what the older person’s motives are. Mothers who think you are a paedophile for daring to glance or smile at her precious child are more the rule than the exception in public places. This is sad particularly for people like me who simply want to share the joy of childhood with the child and we have to curb our natural tendencies to be safer than sorry.

I wonder what this observer of human nature will now say if he ever reads my post.

Children are the future, because mankind is moving more and more towards infancy.
~ Milan Kundera

I think that quite a sizeable section of its male component is moving more towards psychopathy.
This topic was suggested by Ashok for the weekly Friday Loose Bloggers Consortium where currently eight of us write on the same topic every Friday.  I hope that you enjoyed my contribution to that effort.  The seven other bloggers who write regularly are, in alphabetical order,  AshokgaelikaaLin, Maxi, PadmumShackman and The Old Fossil. Do drop in on their blogs and see what their take is on this week’s topic. Since some of them may post late, or not at all this week, do give some allowance for that too!

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39 Responses to Child Abuse.

  1. Yes, that’s sad. I know a fellow who would have loved to watch the kids playing in the school yard close to his house. He didn’t dare because people would have been suspicious.

    And teachers used to put the little ones on their laps to help them put on their overshoes, tie their shoe laces, etc. But now they try touch them as little as possible The kids suffer from that lack of touch and affection too.
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  2. tammy j says:

    i may be a lone voice.
    but i blame the media and video games for a lot of what is happening.
    there has always been a faction of the male population that preys on women and little girls.
    but now the movies and the video games make the sexual and tortuous scenes available at the flick of a button. they feed on these images and it only heightens their own pathology. then they must go out and ‘do their own thing.’ i really do think it has had an effect on the desensitisation of these men… of college age and otherwise.
    they see women and little girls as objects. not human beings.
    sad and frightening. and since the images out there are becoming even more apparently raw… not much chance of any of it getting better.
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  3. Big John says:

    It wasn’t long ago that if I saw a young distressed child wandering in a public place, I would take it by the hand and look for it’s mother or a police officer. Now this action could land me in serious trouble. What a sad old world this has become.
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    • Ashwani, you guys have elected a Super Muffler Man who will bring about safety of women and children in Delhi. Let us see what he does before we wonder whether we should give guns to our women!

  4. Mother says:

    This is a hot button with me. I agree with you wholeheartedly and thank you for addressing this. Good topic for posting by a group that includes men. Unfortunately, (in my experience) although the men I know abhor this treatment of children and women, most of the writings and comments are by women instead of men. I truly believe that at times the voices of men ring out more clearly on this subject.
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    • I know two currently adults but abused in childhood women and both have been in counselling for years to get over the trauma and adjust to current realities. It is a crying shame that men get away with such crimes.

  5. Grannymar says:

    Although not exclusively, it is mainly men who behave in this way. Many of those guys grow up with the idea that taking what they can get is Macho, without realising or thinking how they can damage lives forever. Guns are not the answer, Parents need to be responsible for their children and teach them to respect those they meet, in every way, along the road of life. For years I said every school student should be automatically taught to drive a car when they reached the legal age to do so, Now I think that self defence courses should be manditory for all students, male and female and it might also cut down of the dreaded increase in bullying as well as sexual attacks.
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    • I agree but the issue is far more complex than just acting our machoism. Many other psychological factors are involved and there is no one answer or solution to the problem. And I agree that every school going child should be taught self defence.

  6. nick says:

    It’s depressing that sexual and emotional abuse seem to be rapidly increasing across the world, rather than diminishing. It’s hard to see how to stop it when it has become so entrenched in male culture. As Grannymar says, parents need to teach their children to respect all those they meet along the road of life, be they women, children, the old, the disabled, whoever. And as she also says, self defence courses should be mandatory for all students, male and female, so they can defend themselves effectively against attack.
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  7. Cathy in NZ says:

    Many children do not walk to/from school on their own. I discussing this with my elderly sister recently as the route I took to primary school in the 1950s was a track after I left the main street that went around an empty large playing field BUT half there was a perfect place for a molester, a almost open ended cricket pavilon with a large hedge behind it…I went to/from each day on my own, even on wet days.

    Now I would have to be taken to school in the car or by a walking bus if other children lived in the neighbourhood….

    • This seems to be more of a modern phenomenon Cathy. During our school days, one did not hear about such crimes.

      • Grannymar says:

        During our school days, many life times ago (cue violin music), parents and neighbours watched out for all children, and if corrected, we children took the the correction from whichever adult doled it out. Nowadays people live in their own capsules turning away, almost afraid to interfere or become involved with others around them.

        I was talking to a lady yesterday, her 13 year old grandson was living with her and his grandad, due to family complications, She described him as a quiet young lad, had no real friends, spent most of his time in his bedroom on his computer, ipad, phone or gaming machine. It sounded like no checks were made of what material he was viewing or using. The grandparents would not have been technologically savvy and that thought worried me. I do not live on the same landmass and have not seen the youngster since he was in kindergarten. He would not remember me, so I cannot interfere. Am I guilty of neglect , another form of abuse?
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        • It is some soul searching that you are asking for from all of us oldies. Times have changed so much in the last few decades that one does get confused about relationships.

  8. shackman says:

    I am reminded of Future Shock – things are changing so rapidly the level of stress generated by daily life is almost unmanageable. It’s time to re-evaluate priorities. Interestingly enough it seems to be the generations post baby boomers that are “messing things up” – so does that mean we did not recognize the values we were brought up with? Those generations are our kids.
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  9. Maxi says:

    As a victim, this is a topic I know well. The worst part is that the scars never heal; we take them to the grave.
    blessings ~ maxi
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