This took me on a different quest for something that I had read some time ago. Let me give my own reactions to the five regrets listed there for this post.
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
I honestly believe that I have lived my life as it evolved without ever wanting to change it and welcoming events as they took place. Perhaps that is why, I have come to this three score and ten plus years stage with hardly any stress which surprises the medical profession no end.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
I never worked “so” hard. And, I am not being facetious at all. When I worked I enjoyed every moment of it.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
This has been a weakness but not something that I would regret as not having had the courage. I would say that I was concerned about the other’s feelings and so avoided expressing my own feelings. There have however been instances when I had indeed expressed my feelings without any restraint when those feelings were on the positive side.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
As my readers well know, I have and so this is not a regret that I have at all.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
I have let myself be a happy person and bar those unfortunate losses which gave me sadness, my life has by and large been a happy one.
At the end of the Guardian article this question is asked “What’s your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?”
My answer is simple. I lost my wife too soon. I have no big ambitions left and no desires to change anything. My oft repeated prayer is a Sanskrit one which simply asks for a death that is no trouble to me or my near and dear ones and a life without penury. I have the latter and hope that I will get the former too.
As a post script, let me add another paragraph to discuss the contents of the image given above. Among the unstated regrets that most men have in their lives is one that is rarely if ever openly admitted to. They would like to lead lives as depicted in the song Wandering Star and My Way. Highly impractical former and possible but not likely in the latter. I too have had my share of longing for both and like to hear the songs every now and then just to go gaga! I am sure that there must be songs with similar thoughts for women and I will appreciate some of my readers leading me to them.