Friendship.

Facebook suggested to my young friend Aneesh that he publishes the first anniversary of our friendship on Facebook. He promptly obliged. Reading that another old friend GSM and I exchanged the following comments.

GSM: How many real friends do you have?

Me: Facebook says 673 GSM! Most of them have come back into my life after the advent of cellphones, Facebook and WhatsApp besides the great work done by our ex colleague A Ramaswamy. In this particular case, Aneesh’s father Suresh and I were classmates in Ahmedabad as well as neighbours in Bombay. I however met Aneesh personally only last month when he had come to Pune with his father. It was a great meeting I can assure you.

I need to explain somethings to my readers. GSM is the same friend about whom I had written in my blog post Small Things Matter.

The ex colleague that I mention in my response to him is a remarkable man who has been the inspiration for organising group get togethers for retired and ex colleagues of a company in which GSM, he and I worked many years ago. He keeps informing about all of us to each other by mail and also tries to attend meetings of ex colleagues in Bengaluru, Chennai and Mumbai.

Even I was taken aback to see the number 673 in Facebook. I rechecked and it is indeed true. I can’t however say that I am a very close friend to all of them but, quite a lot of them and I have shared many intersting times together in the past. Some are members of my extended family, some my classmates/alumni, ex colleagues from my working life, children of all these people, friends of friends and so on.

For all the disadvantages that modern digital life has brought us, it has also brought people together.

And to finish this post off in style, let me express my hope that one day my friend Shackman and I will get together and sing this duet!

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20 Responses to Friendship.

  1. shackman says:

    You are 100% correct people have been brought together by the new digital world. In my case, I have very few real friends – some I have known almost 60 years, others I have met along life’s highways and byways, and some on the digital superhighway known as the Internet. There are a couple of good friends made during 30 plus years at RadioShack. I am most surprised by the closeness of some friends acquired via the Internet. I have met and become good friends with the author of some of my favorite music from the sixties, and several others from the days I ran a music message board. I am most surprised and pleased by the closeness that exists between myself and a certain sage of Pune, India. A couple of my oldest, best friends avoid social media – they have other hobbies. We stay in touch via email and telephone.
    Now about that proposed duet – oh what fun that would be – a couple of old croaking frogs – LOL – but count me in.

  2. I hear a lot of negative and short bit of confession “I spend to much time on techie device” But I’ve connected with lot of wonderful people all over the world.
    Find great joy of sharing and be part of others all around the world.

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  3. tammy j says:

    i am having the second childhood of friendship.
    and it’s so wonderful! real or virtual. it all seems very real to me. 🙂
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  4. I mostly don’t use Facebook or other social media, but I love blogging. Yes, internet friends are wonderful.
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  5. I’ve recently opened a Pinterest account, and have found it the most challenging of all social media. You get followers, but it is much less personal than Facebook, or even Twitter. The connection just isn’t there.
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    • I am actually scared to open any accounts other than the three that I am already floating in, FB and WA. I have a Twitter account which I hardly use. I think that I should listen to another friend who suggested that I cull my list of friends on FB!

  6. nick says:

    Well, I only have a humble 53 Facebook friends. Must try harder! I’ve chanced on some wonderful people through the internet, and greatly enjoyed their company even if I’ve never physically met them. I’m sure my life would be somewhat impoverished if I wasn’t part of this extraordinary online world.
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  7. JEN Garrett says:

    Yeah, Facebook sends me those reminders, too. I usually ignore them. Why would I need to “celebrate” with a Facebook post – I celebrate their friendship all the time!

    • I generally ignore them too but some friend or the other gets an alert featuring me and it opens up new threads. In this case too, my friend Anessh started off the whole thought process!

  8. I’ve met probably met 70% of my friends, some years ago who have reconnected because of this gadget whilst others I’ve not met truly…I’ve not got a great deal of f/b friends, but I”m happy with what I do have. My blog is under the radar but that’s okay as well…

    • The number of my friends on fb is high primarily because during my working life, I had to travel extensively and work with many people from all over India and some overseas too. To me, it is highly satisfying that they remember and want to connect.

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