Hurt.

HurtEver since I read Nick’s post, I have been looking for a beautiful story  that I had come across  to teach how to get over being hurt. I have finally located it and I want to share with all my readers.

Once upon a time, there was a guy. He deeply loved a girl. He dreamed of her all the time. He would send her flowers, give her gifts, say nice things, and express his love. She accepted his gifts, flowers, chocolates and all, but wouldn’t give or say anything in return other than a thank you. The boy still didn’t lose hope and thought one day his love would win over her, that, one day she would melt and she would reciprocate. He thought the girl did love him, only that she wasn’t expressing it yet. It went on a for a while. Nothing changed.

One day, the girl informed him that she was moving out of town. He pleaded with her to not go. The girl, however, said that she had more important things to do.
“Why, what about love? Is it not important? Don’t you love me?” the guy said.
“Love? What about it? I never loved you,” she said.

The guy got up and left the place. Everyone in the friends and family got concerned about him. They were certain he was broken beyond repair, but there was not a sign of hurt on his face or in his actions. Some thought he was really depressed and was acting cocky to hide his real feelings. A few days passed and he kept on living normally. One day his friends confronted him.
“You must be really sad and heartbroken. We know you are hurt,” they said.
“Hurt? Not really. I’m happier than before.”
“How can this be? You loved her to bits, whereas she dumped you callously saying she never loved you.”
“You see,” he said, “I lost someone who never loved me, but she lost someone who loved her deeply. So, tell me, who has actually lost?”

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25 Responses to Hurt.

  1. Alan G says:

    Great story with a greater lesson. A perspective I don’t think I have ever really given thought to before. There is a time or two in my life I could have used that advice. Question is, would I have been strong enough to put it into practice?
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  2. Mike says:

    Been there, done that — sort of, 42 years ago. I was the one who moved — went in the Navy — and, then, I got a “Dear Mike” letter. It hurt, but ya gotta move on. Letting emotional pain fester just makes things worse and, if you don’t get past it, it becomes a part of who you are.
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  3. bikehikebabe says:

    Great story! I’ll try to think of the positive next time. Actually I already do. When I do something stupid I say that my punishment is to………..& I do it to redeem myself.

  4. Ursula says:

    Moving story, Ramana. Indeed tear inducing.

    However, she did not lose anything since she never reciprocated his feelings.

    U
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  5. tammyj says:

    the woman in nick’s workplace that needed to be treated so gently that she might otherwise break…
    well. i would be kind… just as he was. but i disbelieve all that pain.
    i’ve known several people like that before and it seems to me more as a means of manipulation. they may have been genuinely hurt at one time. but I think they soon realize it is a supreme way to get attention.
    and so they play the sad victim forever.
    but then. i’m not a therapist. so probably shouldn’t have said that.
    your story of the young man was a very interesting slant on the unrequited love situation!
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    • While there are indeed people who use some experiences to manipulate others, there are others who simply seem to be overwhelmed by the experience. The story is just a tool to use for young people in some grief! They seem to rebound faster than the older ones.

  6. Cathy in NZ says:

    maybe when a hurt escalates it’s not because of a grief but rather at the hands of bully…maybe a parent or sibling.

    by the time ‘you’ might get know a ‘hurt’ personage – the damage was long ago or it continues behind hidden doors…
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  7. When a relationship I would like doesn’t turn out I usually say, “It’s not a good match.” A good reminder to move on and try something else. Let’s face it, the fellow was besotted — he didn’t know the real girl.
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  8. Grannymar says:

    That sounds more like infatuation than love to me.
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  9. nick says:

    Interesting comments. tammyj is probably right that some people use hurt to manipulate others, but in the case I mentioned I think the hurt was genuine and not manipulative. Re your story, I think Grannymar is also right in suggesting it was infatuation and not love. But I agree that if you’ve lost someone who never loved you, that’s not a loss at all, it’s just a bit of bad luck. Or as Jean says, it just wasn’t a good match.
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  10. Anna says:

    Wise man and a healthy way of looking at the situation. I would like to be able to be so clever when I come across disappointments.

  11. Putin has learned that lesson well. “Asked on Sunday about President Obama’s suspension of preparations to attend the Group of 8 summit meeting scheduled for June in Sochi — along with Canada, France and Britain — Mr. Putin’s spokesman, Dmitri S. Peskov, replied cuttingly and dismissively. ‘It’s not a minus for Russia,’ he said. ‘It will be a minus for the G-8.’ ”
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