Nature Vs Nurture.

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I love this topic. And I will deliberately take one specific definition of the word Nature and one of Nurture to write about a favourite topic for me.


a : the inherent character or basic constitution of a person or thing : essence
b : disposition, temperament


1. training, upbringing

~ Merriam – Webster.

I learnt many moons ago as part of improving my communication skills, that when a child is born it just has Instinctual Drives (which became id in psychology text books). It subsequently is taught other things and this process is what makes for the ego and it eventually grows into an adult and learns to think for itself and this becomes the super ego. Instead of making a big song and dance about it, one very smart physician Thomas A Harris MD, came up with a simple to understand book called “I Am Ok You Are Ok. Who called the three stages as Child, Parent and Adult.


Child is our ‘Felt’ concept of life

Parent is our ‘Taught’ concept of life
Adult is our ‘Thought’ concept of life

Now that the background to my understanding has been established, I can start pontificating.

If our ‘felt’ concept of life that is the instinctual drives are a given, that concept gets buttressed by what is ‘taught’ to us, our grown up state must be one that is totally conditioned by factors beyond our control. It is at this point that our ‘thought’ process should take over and modify the concept of life to one which will enable us to live harmoniously with ourselves and others.

So, going back to our definitions, our ‘nature’ is formed by instinctual drives and buttressed by ‘nurture’.

So, why Versus? Why not And?

In the Indian philosophical system ‘nature’ is called swadharma. Let me not reinvent the wheel and use Raghu Apte’s commentary on the Bhagwat Geeta.

“The concept of ‘Swadharma’ mentioned in the Bhagavad Gita has two elements. ‘Swa’ represents attitude, aptitude, natural inclination and inborn qualities in an individual. An individual portrays a unique, incomparable and a bit rigid disposition almost throughout the life span. Individuality (‘Swa’) as such is an intricate blend of nature and nurture. In this context, nature means innate qualities and preordained fate. Nurture (external impacts like environmental, social, political and so on) keeps shaping an individual throughout the life span. An individual responds to the external factors in a specific way according to the individual nature (‘Dharma’).

‘Dharma’ also refers to a framework which sustains the world. Establishment of dharma means provision of a social framework which facilitates a meaningful interaction between an individual and the external reality. It provides an opportunity to each member of the society to utilise the natural talents and to act according to the natural inclination. Establishment of Dharma ensures that an individual gets truly satisfied by living a meaningful and creative life. The society too gets benefited from his talents. Swadharma – Dharma is a bridge which connects an individual’s well being with the social well being. The philosophy suggests that life is neither accidental nor meaningless. Each individual takes birth at a specific moment, in a specific situation, with a preordained life mission.

“I would distinguish what is commonly called choice among men, and which is a partial act, the choice of the hands, of the eyes, of the appetites, and not a whole act of the man. But that which I call right or goodness, is the choice of my constitution.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson.”

In modern times, what we see as conflict within individual personalities is due to the going against this Nature and Nurture combination due to a different kind of conditioning, primarily rooted in aspiring to be something different from what one is due to Swadharma. The Vs instead of the And.

I hope you enjoyed reading this post on the weekly Friday Loose Bloggers Consortium where eleven of us write on the same topic. Today’s topic has been chosen by Shackman. The ten other bloggers who write regularly are, in alphabetical order, Delirious, gaelikaa, Grannymar, Maxi, Maria SF, Padmum, Paul, Shackman, The Old Fossil and Will. Do drop in on their blogs and see what their take is on this week’s topic. Since some of them may post late, do give some allowance for that too!

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13 Responses to Nature Vs Nurture.

  1. Grannymar says:

    My Hosting company is experiencing problems today, so my post is ready and still in my laptop. When it does manage to go live you will see that in Ireland we are having major difficulty due to the going against Nature and Nurture.
    PS: I like the new header.
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  2. Delirious says:

    I love that quote by Emmerson about choice. Because when it all comes down to it, our choices are what define us.

  3. Maxi says:

    Great quote by Emerson. “…aspire to be something different from what I’m due…” Hmm.
    Like the new look on your header.
    Blessings ~ Maxi
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  4. Ursula says:

    Of course its nature AND nurture. What else? In my opinion, and experience, ‘nature’, ie the personality you are, the character you were born with, is the back bone, the very foundation on which the rest of your life is built. To which nurture comes a poor, though important, second.

    Ramana, and I reserve judgment over Harris whose book I must read some 25 years ago, I can’t see where – in putting your point – his child, parent and adult fit in. Those of your readers not familiar with either Jung or indeed Harris will not even understand what you are talking about.

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    • Rummuser says:

      I agree Ursula that the thrust of the argument could have remained unaltered without the mention of the book but I wanted to point out the similarities between modern scientific thought and ancient spiritual texts.

  5. bikehikebabe says:

    When I dismantled my library (gave it to the town library) I noticed two “I’m OK, You’re OK”. Didn’t read either–That’s a joke. I kept one which I’ll read now–fingers crossed.

    The Taught concept of life has too much influence over lives–religions come to mind.
    It’s easy to do what you’ve always done, not thinking there’s a better way.

  6. Edward says:

    That quote is awesome. You are right it should be Nature And Nurture.
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