Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind.

I hope that you enjoy reading this post on the weekly Friday Loose Bloggers Consortium where eleven of us write on the same topic. Today’s topic has been chosen by Will. The ten other bloggers who write regularly are, in alphabetical order, Delirious, gaelikaa, Grannymar, Maxi, Maria SF, Padmum, Paul, Shackman, The Old Fossil and Will. Do drop in on their blogs and see what their take is on this week’s topic. Since some of them may post late, do give some allowance for that too!

out of sight

“Proverbs often contradict one another, as any reader soon discovers. The sagacity that advises us to ‘look before we leap’ promptly warns us that ‘if we hesitate we are lost’; that ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’, but ‘out of sight, out of mind’.”
~ Leo Rosten

Something that has always occurred to me whenever this saying was quoted to me was to ask, “What about those who are born without sight?  Don’t they have minds?” In most cases, to be polite, I never did.

And I should really rest my case with that pithy observation but, it is such a corny statement that I can’t resist the temptation to add my personal experience on it.

It has been more than four years since my partner of forty plus years went out of sight. She disappeared in a haze of smoke leaving behind a small urn full of ash. You think that she is out of my mind? No way dear reader. There is not a day that something or the other does not remind me and our son of her. She is out of our sights but most certainly not out of our minds.

When she was alive, and mind you during days when making telephone calls were not as easy as it is today, I used to travel a great deal and she and our son would be out of sight for me for an average of three weeks a month. Do you think that they were ever out of my mind or I out of theirs?

Having had that little rant, that proverb has its uses and so let me conclude this post with another – “Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater.” As if anyone in their right mind would, unless of course the baby is out of sight.

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17 Responses to Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind.

  1. Delirious says:

    You have made a good point that I never thought of. No, our departed loved ones are never out of our minds!
    Delirious recently posted..The Failing American Diet Part 3

  2. shackman says:

    Like most things proverbs are gray. One size fits all with considerable tweaking.
    shackman recently posted..LBC Topic – Out of sight, out of mind”

  3. Grannymar says:

    Throw the baby out with the bathwater? My Elly would never fit down the plug hole!
    Grannymar recently posted..Out of sight, out of mind

  4. Maxi says:

    Four years is a short time compared to the years you were together. Still, each day that passes brings you closer to being together again.
    blessings ~ maxi
    Maxi recently posted..No More Bright Eyed and Bushy Tailed

  5. Out of sight, out of mind it seems to me only applies to those things without deeper personal meaning. Loved ones, like Urmeela, like my father, never leave our minds.
    The Old Fossil recently posted..Out of sight, out of mind!

  6. tammy j says:

    i think that saying might have been conjured up by the first man who wanted to ‘play around’ on his wife perhaps. or perhaps even a woman in a relationship she wasn’t serious about. “out of sight out of mind” allowed that person in each case to act in a way they wouldn’t have otherwise.
    i have always been a pollyanna. maybe i’m becoming a cynic!!!
    affectionately yours,
    polly becoming
    tammy j recently posted..impatience and the zombie

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