Piece Of Mind.

My regular readers will recollect that about a month ago, I had written on another topic suggested by me for the weekly Friday LBC post – “Peace Of Mind“. When we had suggested the topics for the LBC, immediately after Peace Of Mind, my mind jumped to Piece Of Mind and I had suggested the topic. And now that the time has come to write on it, I am stumped! I am sure that the other blogger Shackman will come out trumps on this one and you can see what he has to say at his blog.

When I googled for “piece of mind idiom”, this is what I got. “(idiomatic) To express one’s opinion strongly; to voice one’s disagreement or dissatisfaction, especially with another person; to scold or rebuke someone”.

Using that definition as a guideline, I can vouch for one difficult to understand fact. I have not been able to give a piece of my mind to anyone in decades! Retirement has made it impossible. It is not as though opportunities do not present themselves but discretion plays its part and I refrain from letting go.

Pre retirement days as a Manager, there were many occasions when I had to give a piece of my mind to somebody or the other and in retrospect even those now seem to have been tempered with factual letting go, rather than diatribes. Perhaps I am just made that way.

I expect that my spiritual pursuits have something to do with this ability to let go and resort to giving pieces of my mind to anyone as I find myself quite placid and equanimous in most stressful situations. Here too, perhaps I am just made that way.

How about you dear reader? Do you often let go and give a piece of your mind to others?

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19 Responses to Piece Of Mind.

  1. shackman says:

    I typically use my blog to do that – I might even on occasion offer seemingly inflammatory rhetoric to spur a conversation. Face-to-face I will often be a bit more aggressive. When in college a prof intentionally always placed me on t he side of a debate that was the polar opposite of what I really thought. He taught me much about how to win arguments and I could just as easily win a debate from either side. It taught me to chose my words carefully and choose my sides honestly.
    shackman recently posted..Piece of Mind LBC 07’08/2016

    • Ursula says:

      How very amusing, Shackman, “debate that was the polar opposite of what I really thought”. Yes, it’s called “devil’s advocate”. Play devil’s advocate at your peril – unless you are in company which appreciates the finer points of discourse.

      First time I did [play devil’s advocate], and god knows what possessed me (maybe I was bored with the evening’s conversation went), I was astonished at the effect words well chosen can have. I was about, I don’t know, eighteen, nineteen and put an oppposing view so convincingly (which I should be proud of) that mayhem ensued. Several people not talking to me for at least five minutes. Swearing to absolve me of their previously never dying friendship.

      That was fun; the joke being on them. Since then I (try to) tread more carefully.

      U
      Ursula recently posted..Off the well worn path

      • shackman says:

        In the classroom I was ruthless – and very unpopular. Last day of class I apologized to those I had steamrolled – explained I did not believe anything I said. A great hue and cry ensued wherein I was called names and the value of the class questioned – and the prof, a very nice Quaker and friend of my advisor simply pointed out that I earned my course A by simply doing everything I could to win any debate in which I participated. He added I never had a choice which side to choose. It was interesting. A few years later in Manhattan I was delivering some data terminals and was standing in front of my hotel near Time Square when one of those classmates came up and offered to take me out for drinks at the end of the day. We had a great time and nary a cross word was spoken.
        shackman recently posted..Piece of Mind LBC 07’08/2016

    • A diplomat by training, in other words!

  2. nick says:

    I often give people a piece of my mind if I strongly disagree with them. At work even more so, as I have to complain about things like late deliveries, missed deadlines, faulty products etc. If I need to complain, I don’t pull any punches. But if it’s something trivial that’s not worth complaining about, I’ll keep quiet. There’s no point in getting someone’s back up for no good reason.
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  3. Ursula says:

    It’s an unpleasant phrase, indeed an unpleasant concept, Ramana, to “give someone a piece of mind”. To me in conjures up aggression. I’d say, more gently and befitting the fairer sex, that I will speak my mind. If and when necessary. To speak your mind needs to be well gauged, according to the recipient’s tenderness. What is a gentle nudge to one person, causes a bloody volcano with another. Stand by to be surprised.

    On the whole, and this may please you and your own leanings, my dear Ramana, I am beginning to err on the side of keeping shtumm. That way not only are tender souls kept in their cotton wool, it also deprives them of the opportunity to give you a piece of THEIR mind. Keep it coming.

    U
    Ursula recently posted..Off the well worn path

  4. I’m with you, Rummuser, giving people a piece of my mind isn’t my style, especially as I get older and need every last bit of it. 🙂
    Cheerful Monk recently posted..Dreams

  5. Linda Sand says:

    Cheerful Monk beat me to the punchline. 🙂

  6. Cathy in NZ says:

    I think about giving someone a “piece of mind” quite often but by the time I get to the person, I have had time to think about it…

    I probably have given it out – but I don’t think it has really paid off…

  7. wisewebwoman says:

    I can’t recall giving a piece of my mind in recent history. I am more gentle though never a pushover. If someone is rude I learned a phrase years ago: “could you rephrase that in a way that would inspire me?” Some have lashed out further but it’s worth the risk. I’m non-confrontational by nature. Not good in a manager, which I still am though on a volunteer basis.
    I try to inspire and not upset.
    XO
    WWW
    PS I sound like a wimp but I am far from. 😀
    wisewebwoman recently posted..My World of PGs*

  8. tammy j says:

    i can still get upset but i seldom give a ‘piece of my mind’ in that regard.
    i need a cooling off period it seems. then i can respond better.
    like you . . . i seem to be getting nice and mellow these days.
    i don’t think of it as apathetic but as thinking of it all in perspective.
    now . . . in a workplace dealing with the things nick mentioned . . .
    might be a whole different story!
    the marine tells me that semantics are important. and he’s right.

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