You Can’t Do That!

I am sure that Shackman did not have this song in mind when he suggested this topic for the weekly LBC blog posts. Not like him to. But I immediately remembered this song for being one of those of The Beatles that I did not particularly like. For what it is worth, here it is for anyone who may have felt different about it.

That phrase was and is like a red rag waved at a bull for me. My late wife learnt it the hard way and very often I too learnt some unforgettable lessons for not having listened to her in the first place. But that is me and after all those years of such lessons, I am still capable of treating that statement as a dare and would end up doing bizarre things only to regret later. I do not have her to caution me any more, and my son who is the only one around me to exercise some kind of control over me, knows me enough not to use the phrase and instead use other flanking tactics. I am sure that my readers will understand what I mean by flanking tactics, and will not elaborate, but, sometimes, I can still see the deception and charge off at the red rag.

I personally am totally incapable of conveying that message to anyone. To the best of my recollection, I have never used it to deter someone from doing something crazy or otherwise. Not that people who know me well, will listen even if I tell them that, for they know that, I will be first one to stand on the side lines and cheer them along.

What about you dear reader? Will you heed that warning if it is addressed to you, and will you give it to others?

This topic was suggested by Shackman, for the weekly Friday Loose Bloggers Consortium where currently nine of us write on the same topic every Friday.  I hope that you enjoyed my contribution to that effort.  The seven other bloggers who write regularly are, in alphabetical order,  AshokgaelikaaLin, Maxi, Padmum, Pravin,  Shackman and The Old Fossil. Do drop in on their blogs and see what their take is on this week’s topic. Since some of them may post late, or not at all this week, do give some allowance for that too!

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26 Responses to You Can’t Do That!

  1. shackman says:

    That’s exactly what I was thinking when I suggested the topic Ramana – methinks I liked the song a bit more than you but it was definitely nowhere near their best work. Alas I find myself using the phrase all too often these days on my 5-year old grandson. And occasionally my teenage granddaughters. Like you though, when the phrase is used on me I immediately start figuring out how to prove the person making the comment wrong. Sometimes I win. SOmetimes they do.
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  2. I don’t think I’ve ever used that phrase. If someone said it to me I might get annoyed but would probably not have a knee-jerk reaction. Years ago my folks would sometimes say, “I wouldn’t do that if I were you.” It’s very similar, and I simply decided for myself.
    Cheerful Monk recently posted..Getting Ready for the Fire Season

  3. Maxi says:

    “You can’t that,” will cause some to rebel and others to pause. I think males tend to be the rebels and females to think of the consequences.
    Of course, there’s always the exception to the rule like my granddaughter.
    blessings ~ maxi
    Maxi recently posted..You Can’t Do That

  4. tammy j says:

    interesting.
    i’ve never really thought about it. because it’s not a particular red flag for me personally. i tend to do what i want to do. good or bad results vary from that of course! i politely listen to nay sayers… but in the end i do what i want to do and i always know i’m going to!
    i guess think scarlett o’hara with an okie accent. LOLOL.
    tammy j recently posted..simple saturday four

  5. Grannymar says:

    There is nobody round to say it to me, so I can do what I like!!

  6. KRD Pravin says:

    Yes that sounds exactly what you said – a Red rag. The feeling most of the time is same – Why not? Who are you to say so to me?
    My post is up – You Can’t Do That! http://business2buddha.com/2015/05/09/you-cant-do-that/

    Personally, I did not like the song at all. Even if they are “The Beatles” but I think this song is not that good. I may use the beats for other wordings perhaps 😉

  7. Mother says:

    This isn’t a hot button for me. I don’t think I say it and must not have heard it said to me in any restrictive way, since I don’t react to it. I think of it in more of a laughing manner of shock and astonishment.
    Mother recently posted..Don’t call me a good mother

  8. Works about as well as the admonishment to “calm down,” doesn’t it? I’d rather hear “don’t do that,” prefaced with “please.”
    Holly Jahangiri recently posted..What Cella Saw

  9. Well, I must confess that I would see a red rag and charge. In my case it is a sign of independence pushed too far. Maybe there was a need for that in my childhood. I am still working it out. I do not believe I use it on others myself.

  10. Cathy in NZ says:

    of course you can delete the …n’t out of it easily. When folk ask me why I have decided or done something my usual phrase is “because I can”…usually stops them their tracks as they try to see the whole scenario.

    Doesn’t matter if on the journey I have to rearrange the proposed out come… Example: I set a goal at Uni to get my degree in a certain time frame, wanting to get it just after a certain birthday…in the end I had to rejig the time frame but I was still in that vintage year just later.

    I like to think that I have made them a challenge to go outside their tiny box and do something remarkable, life changing, other. There an awful lot of my friends/others who are so set in their ways that just can’t imagine “because I can” and sometimes I have a lot of flak over that – it can at times become depressing!!!

  11. You know, what’s funny about me is that I’ve rarely responded to that statement face value. If I was in the mood to do it then I did it; if I wasn’t then I didn’t. I couldn’t care less what someone else said or thought in these moments; I think that’s been a pretty good way to live over all these years.
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  12. nick says:

    Would I heed the warning? For me it would depend why they’re saying it. If they had a good reason (you’ll fall ill, you’ll lose your job etc), then I might very well take notice. But if they don’t have a good reason – they just disagree with me, or they think I’m mad, or they think I’m going against social norms, then I just ignore them. It’s not a red rag to a bull, only a thought-provoking remark.

  13. nick says:

    Oh, I forgot to say, that Beatles song is one of my favourites. No accounting for tastes, as they say.
    nick recently posted..Nooks and corners

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